You love your child, but you’ve had a hard time being part of their life. You had a falling out with your child’s mother, and ever since, she has used your child as leverage. Without giving her the things she wants, you never get the chance to see your child.
This kind of situation isn’t fair to you or to the child. There are a few things you can do to start resolving this custody problem.
- Talk to your ex-partner
To start with, it’s important to talk to your ex-partner about your child and why it’s important for you to see them. Ask why they’re looking for certain things from you and discuss how a denial of access has a negative effect on you and them.
Sometimes, talking through issues is enough to resolve them. Other times, you may need to go a few steps further.
- Get a DNA test
If you don’t already have DNA evidence that you’re the father of the child, now is the time to ask for a DNA sample to find out the truth. If you turn out to be the father, you can use this evidence to establish your visitation rights and rights as your child’s biological parent.
If your ex-partner refuses to give a sample of your child’s DNA, you can go to the court to petition for a sample to be tested.
- Go to court to establish your rights
Finally, once you’re in a position where you have tried alternatives but do need additional legal help, it’s time to go to court. You should present your claim to a judge with the help of your attorney, so you can make the clearest case for custody. Once your biological bond is proven, most judges will help you obtain a fair visitation schedule.
It’s hard to deal with a situation where you can’t see your child, but there are legal options available to most people. Your attorney will walk you through the steps that you’ll need to take based on the situation and what you’ve already tried to do in the past.